A few weeks ago I shared with you about our major change in our journey. The support and response from all of you was overwhelming, inspiring and humbling.

I so wish I felt like I could have shared about all the challenges we were going through while we “in it” since there seems to be so many of you who can relate. So many of you gave us confidence knowing that you too had taken a similar road and it landed you in a happier place.

Thank you.

Many of you asked us to continue to share what was next and what we were doing. And we are ALL waiting for Dana himself to share around here (hint, hint dear!). So I thought I would take some time today to share where we are at this point.

The month of June was a whole lot of start and stop. Dana was technically still employed by his company, but they were transitioning him out. That meant a mix of being in the office and being at home.

And then we went right into all-star softball games. As an FYI, our girl’s team made it two more rounds and lost to an extremely strong team. The community support was amazing and everyone was just so excited for the coaches, girls and families. This was the furthest any team, softball or baseball, had ever made it from our Little League organization. It was a great experience but seriously practically a full time job. I do not know how the families do it that are “still going”!


We finished up with that and went right up to New Hampshire for Dana’s 25th high school reunion. I can’t even believe I just typed those words because I am pretty sure we are still 20 and in college.


And now we are home, ready to enjoy some down time and get ready to head to the Haven Conference. I am bringing my whole crew – whether they like it or not! Actually, Peanut’s and Dana’s birthdays fall right in the middle of the conference so I am forcing bringing them with me and making it a mini-vacation. I can not be away from my girl on her birthday!

Then, from there we will take our true family vacation in August – heading to North Carolina for the first time for some beach loving. My parent’s place in LBI is still not recovered from Sandy, so we are making the best of it and going to a new place.

Since there is still so much I don’t know, I thought I would focus once again on what I do know…

What I know…

  • Watching Dana during the three day extravaganza of his reunion was amazing. It was the old “Dana”. He reconnected with friends and people he realized meant a lot to him. We drove a lot of country roads and fell in love with NH all over again.
  • Every time we head up there we come home questioning why we don’t live there or somewhere in New England. But I am going with my “inner signs”. If ever there was a specific “reason” to move, we would consider it. But, for now we are working on making our life work here. Life here works for us.
  • I am feeling unnerved and confused. The whole structure of my everyday has changed. Summer days used to be built around when “Dad got home from work”. I am feeling pulled in a lot of directions and trying to balance things as best as possible but I am fully aware I am not getting in right each time. I am going to have to figure out how to make it work for me.
  • I am thankful for this time and the girl’s are loving having time with their Dad. Right now they are watching the All-Stars and playing Rummy. Does it get better than that?
  • I am still okay with not knowing what is next. Not everyone around us is as comfortable with that and that is okay too.
  • I haven’t done a load of laundry in weeks! While all other chores (okay, he is cooking more too) are shared, he has taken on laundry like a champ. I have even taken to calling him “Doctor Laundry”.
  • I really feared these first weeks would be hard. He really is okay. He really feels confident in his decision and is not questioning it. That is what I prayed for the most and I am so thankful.

So that is where we are at. I will do my best to share as we move into the next stages, but for now, we are focusing on enjoying summer and getting some projects done. You can follow us throughout our summer on Instagram at LPatFindingHome.

Thanks, as always for reading and wishing you a great day.


July 17, 2013 — Laura Putnam