Learning from Women’s Basketball

When you grow up tall, when people meet you they ask how tall you are.

When you answer, 5’ 10”, they often say, “Oh, you should play basketball”.

Although height helps, it does not make one a basketball player – skill, determination and coordination do.

I may have determination, but I have no skill, am lacking in coordination and the truth be known, I don’t like basketball.

I especially don’t like to watch basketball, I think it is all the whistles and the squeaking shoes.

So, why is I found myself riveted in front of the the television last night watching the women’s college championship games?


Because I had a personal connection.

Turns out one of the key players on a team graduated from our high school just two years ago.

All of sudden, I wanted them to win, my girls were nervously watching and wanted them to win.

I truly enjoyed watching the game, although our team did not win.

All because of a personal connection.

And women’s basketball got me thinking.

Sometimes I struggle with what you are all looking from me.  Do you come here just for decorating projects and ideas, do you enjoy the stories about my family, do you want to hear my personal perspective on things or the struggles I face?

Should I be personal?

Or should I just write about decorating.


I have begun to realize that, although, I really do enjoy blogs that are truly informative and provide inspirations, ideas and tutorials, I am more and more drawn to those with a personal side to them as well.

The other day I was reading an interview (wish I could remember where) with Ashley from Under the Sycamore and she wrote how even if she no longer had readers she would still write her blog because she loved it so much.  That really struck a chord with me.

I have come to the conclusion that I am okay with making this blog personal, that I want it to be personal, and for me to be best at what I am doing here, I have to be true to myself and be personal.

I want to have a connection with each of you.

I received an email over the weekend form a reader in Australia offering friendship and kindness.

It so truly touched my heart that she would take the time to reach out to me because she thought I needed it.

Isn’t that why we are all here – to be inspired, to learn, to make connections?

Now, that doesn’t mean things are going to change, there will still be decorating ideas and projects, this will still be about our homes.

But our homes are personal, they are about the stuff in it, but mostly they are about us.

I would love to hear what you think – why do you come here?  Is there something you would like to see more of?  Less?

As always, thank you so much for reading!

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13 thoughts on “Learning from Women’s Basketball”


  1. I confess I love the personal side of a blog as well as the projects and decor. It’s why I love reading blogs. The chance to connect with women all over the world, all of us having the same stresses and struggles and also successes. My little blog is my place to share what’s in my head (I live in a house with 3 men) and I enjoy it, no matter the numbers of readers. Please share all of you not just the bits you think we’d like, you may just be surprised. xx

  2. I also like reading some personal posts. (I loved when you shared your family pictures.) It helps me picture you in your house…your thoughts, your struggles, and your ideas about life, family and home. I love doing my blog, such as it is. It’s just part of me, and I cherish that. 🙂

  3. Oh Laura, you are so sweet! Yes, personal is I think deep down what most of us look for. We want to be connected, we want to care and share through life’s ups and downs and that great find at the thrift shop. Follow you heart…Thank you for putting yourself out there. Blessings.

  4. Agreeing with those above. Same Struggle. Same Conclusion. I love to hear personal stories and photos. My blog is for me first. We are all so more than one thing in this life and it is so hard to just constantly write on one subject. Most people don’t. To much pressure. So go ahead, write to your content on what you want to write on, including your personal life, we’d (I would) love to hear all about it! Have an awesome day:)

  5. Laura,
    I came here the first time and just loved your house tour. I couldn’t wait for the next update. Christmas rolled around and the mantle and tree in the living room, beautiful. Home personified.
    The other big part is how that all fits in a life. I know the difference between a home and a home catalog. We all have a need for our lives to make sense, sometimes room for improvement, and understanding when it just doesn’t come out like we want. We all have limitations.
    One entry I loved was the office and spare bedroom are a mess….. It makes me feel better that others have the same issues. I know that my projects will be done sooner or (much)later. I also know that sometimes you put your house on hold to let your HOME function.
    Keep it real, personal, quirky, nostalgic, beautiful. Like you do already. Bravo.

  6. I found your blog through a tour of homes about a year ago. Although it was your decorating style that first had my focus, it was not long until the personal side of your life also drew a connection. I think you balance the two well and look forward to what is to come. I so love when you share the treasures/vintage finds that you discover – it keeps us all on the hunt for the perfect treasure for our own home!!

  7. I was first drawn to your blog through the mantel link and now I come back everyday. Love your style, enjoy your blog – all of it. You have inspired me to change things up in my own home. Don’t change for us, keep doing what you are doing for you and we will benefit.

  8. Laura,
    Just keep doing what your doing! It’s you..it’s your interpretation and expression of your every day life. How can anything be wrong with that? When you’re being creative, you’re sharing that creative side. When your being reflective, you’re expressing and sharing that side of you. Your sharing your lessons learned, which is very charitable. People learn from other people, they grow through others that touch their lives and you’re genuine with what you share. So, I say your blog is a gift to all your readers. They wouldn’t all still be reading if they didn’t benefit in some way from you being willing to share life through your mind’s eye.
    Sorry for going on and on, couldn’t help myself.
    The Momma

  9. It’s a bit serendipitous = I’ve been thinking lately about the blogs I follow and why; and just this evening another blogger was questioning linky parties (and the ettiquette of them). All of this is striking a strong note with me. I’ve decided that I’m no longer following the blogs that are all about others’ projects, etc., or are not a personal experience with the writer. Each of us has a finite amount of time to spend, so I’d reckon we want to enjoy that time. I think yours is a pleasure, so here I stay!

  10. I think a home that is decorated by its owner (not a decorator) reflects the heart & soul of the owner and when you see an interior that resonates with you because of its reflection of comfort and family history and spirit and warmth then you feel a connection to those values in the owner. Personal anecdotes add to your blog just like adding a personal touch to your home adds a bit of warmth & comfort. Be you in your writing just like you are you in your home. You’ve already invited us in. We stay here because we are drawn to the connection we feel.

  11. I battle with that too Laura, my husband is very private and even cringes when I put up pictures of the kids…..it’s made it so the blog isn’t as personal (by default!) but I try to balance it with something I call “fess up friday” and I share pictures that make myself and my family look real….I’m not the perfect clean amazing decorating blog/house , I’m a real person with lots of mishaps! Here is my last weeks Fess Up Friday:

  12. Truth be told, I come here because I love your home. You have a unique style that is all your own and I’m drawn to it. I confess that I don’t always have time to get personal. I need to make more time I guess. But that’s what I love so much about blogging. I’m able to be personal when I have time, and if not, I just post something simple. And btw, I’m almost 6 foot, never played basketball, never modeled, and people always act surprised at how tall my kids are. LOL!

  13. I don’t know how I missed this post, but glad that it did not get buried in the abyss as this is such a wonderful one…Laura, you keep on doing the wonderful job that you are doing…blogging from the heart..not for any other gain…I think some people lose sight of what is important…to blog because you love it, not to count your followers, or to hope to make a mini fortune…

    I can say that I am not among the ones with thousands or even hundred of followers, but the ones I do have, I cherish..I cherish them as they are all kind hearted people loving what they are doing…

    Stay true to yourself and you will reap the benefits of knowing that you are loved…
    “Hitch a wagon to a star”…Ralph Waldo Emerson…