We Need Some Puppy Advice


Hello sweet friends.

Thank you so much for your all of your warm welcomes to Hannah.  And, as some of you have asked, we have not yet picked her middle name.  I am beginning to think Banana might win out because that is what we seem to be calling her.  And by we, I mean the girls and I.  If I hear Dana call her Banana, it will for sure be the winner.

As we shared, Hannah is a rescue dog.  When we first brought her home she was incredibly mellow and didn’t even seem to understand the concept of playing.  Bailey was so sweet with her and “taught” her how to play.  Slowly but surely, Hannah’s personality has started to come out and she is a happy and sweet puppy.

Hannah was not an overly planned decision, and I shared with you that not having researched and investigated adding another puppy to the mix was not in my comfort zone.   Now that we have transitioned with her, she is forever in our hearts and we so love this sweet puppy.

However, it seems like as Hannah has gotten happier and more comfortable, Bailey has gone the other way.  It started last week when we took her to the groomer.  We take her to a sweet lady’s home, which is also where she is boarded.  Bailey has always truly loved going to “Auntie Laurie’s”, but this time, she was completely freaked out.  When I picked her up, the groomer said she was really out of sorts the whole time.

Since then, Bailey has just not seemed happy or herself.  She has shown some behaviors that are less than desirable and so out of character for her.

There have been a few other things in play.  Bailey did just get a major haircut (necessary) which sometimes throws her off and we have been traveling.  But we have to think it has something do with bringing Hannah into the family.

But here is my question, does anyone have any advice on how to help Bailey transition through bringing a puppy home?  We feel so bad about how she seems and we just don’t know what to do.

I so appreciate anyone’s helpful thoughts.  My first thoughts this morning were to check with my helpful, kind and smart readers!


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  1. The same thing happened to us when we brought our bulldog puppy home to meet our 5 year old pug (and cat). Our sweet pug got very clingy, demanding, aggressive and moody… it’s common when you add a new animal into the mix, especially an annoying puppy. We spent a lot of time making sure that our pug got special attention and cuddles, along with her old privileges of sleeping in bed with us (obviously the puppy wasn’t allowed to). It also helped that we crated the puppy, so our pug enjoyed lots of time alone with us, where she was doted on. It still took almost a year until our pug (and the cat, who had trouble adjusting also) finally relaxed and got comfortable with the new addition. Now they’re bffs, but it was a tough year for all of us. Just give it time and pay extra attention to the older pet, that’s really the only thing you can do.

  2. I agree with Mariah Sweet Bailey just needs to adjust. Give her more love and kisses .Goldendoodles are sweet dogs she will bounch back. Booker got a short cut also but i groom him once a month so he didnt mind. Good Luck Laura.

  3. Hi there! I’m fairly new to your blog and love it. I’m also a fellow dog lover and had a similar situation. We rescued a german shepherd puppy (girl) and brought her home to our 7 year old male lab who is a total sweetheart. He was less than thrilled at first… almost depressed. Like the above people said it just took time. I think our older dog had to realize that the new pup was part of the family and not just a visitor. I would say after about a month they started really playing and now are the best of friends. One idea… I take our puppy to doggy daycare about once a week so that our older dog can just have a relaxing day with me (I work from home). He gets to go on a walk with just his mom and seems to enjoy the time but is then very excited to see his sister. The puppy obviously LOVES doggy daycare and comes home exhausted. Hope that helps but I’m sure your sweet babies will be friends soon!

  4. I used to foster Boston Terriers and had this issue often. My boston was used to getting all the attention. When the others would come into our house, it was as if she felt replaced. It took several times of seeing them adopted for her to realize she was there to stay. After I finally started to understand, I would take time out for just her. She seemed to love it! She got her one on one attention and realized that I still cared about her just as much as I always did. My biggest suggestion is to let Bailey know that she’s still just as important as she has always been! She just needs the reassurance from the whole family that she isn’t being replaced.

  5. The others have give you good advice. As much fun as puppies are, and as much attention all of you feel you need to give her, the fact is that your older pet is afraid of being “replaced.” Giving lots of attention to your older pet and often making sure that the puppy isn’t giving your older pet too much grief in trying to play with her will help with the transition.

  6. Hi, Laura!
    I know this seems odd but one of my friends dogs got sick when she went to the groomer and after a while they found out that it was bladder infection…
    So if Bailey is not well , observe if she is peeling around… Might be a bladder infection rather than marking territory.
    Just a thought that came to my mind when I read your post.
    And yes, I guess it is an adjustment… We frequently thunk the older dog will like company but my dog was like ” WHAT??” When we got a puppy. He was not happy at all. Now they are good together.
    Keep us posted!

  7. I am not sure how old Bailey is, but bringing another female dog in later is usually trouble. One thing you can do is always make sure Bailey gets everything first ~ food, treats, attention and even going out the door. Hang in there, hopefully things will work themselves out and Bailey will become more accepting.

  8. We rescued a pit bull mix – Nina – and then several years later we rescued a pit bull – Candy. Nina had one litter of puppies so when we brought Candy home as a puppy and a very sick one at that, Nina just went into “mother” mode and took over. Candy ended up having 9 inches of her intestine removed and when she came home Nina never left her alone. They are 4 and 8 now and still the best of friends. Don’t know how it would have worked if Candy had been a young puppy and all over her. Give Bailey a lot of extra love and special treatment and it should work out.

  9. We’ve been through this though your case sounds worse than ours. We have a 10 yr old lab & was puppy sitting our daughter-in-law’s Yorkie. What started as a few weeks turned into a whole year of keeping the Yorkie.

    I agree with the advice given so far: more attention for the older dog, doing things for her first, ect. I especially think crating the puppy often (you need to do that to train her anyway) made a big difference for our old dog. Any time the older dog seemed annoyed by the puppy we crated the puppy. After a few months they became very good friends.

    Actually, we’ve decided to get our own Yorkie because our sweet lab seems to miss her so much. We now know what to expect & hope they’ll both become great buddies.

  10. It is like when a new human baby arrives home, the older sibling gets jealous and feels the baby gets all of the love. Bailey probably thought when you dropped her off at the groomers that you were keeping the pup and getting rid of her. One on one time with no puppy interference will help. Maybe you can take just Bailey to a trip to Petco or PetSmart and buy her a special toy. It will get better with time!

  11. You are getting great advice……extra attention for Bailey and lots of patience. Bailey sounds like a great dog and will adjust in her own time. They’ll be friends soon enough!

  12. Hi Laura,
    I agree with the rest of the gang in that it could well be that she is feeling a bit replaced. It could also mean that she is getting older. It could also mean the haircut, and she is not liking that sudden change, she could well associate the change of her fur with Hannah. But it could well be that she doesn’t like the groomer any longer. Perhaps because the groomer is the culprit, or perhaps the groomer is no longer nice to her?!

    We had this experience with our groomer/boarding place of 6 years, and as we started digging into it, another employee told us that she was not very nice to our Peewee [a Chihuahua/Yorkie mix] a mellow, sweet and loving little guy that is 8 years old now. Well needless to say, he no longer goes there, and the groomer was fired over some other complaints from other customers/parents that came forward. I don’t want to raise any suspicions or any distrust on your part, but continue to look into it. Our babies cannot speak with words like you and me, but they can sure speak through their body language and behaviors. We will be praying for the Lord to shed some light into this matter.



  13. I can’t help but think Bailey needs to be examined by the Vet. I agree with the other reader who suggested she might have a urinary tract infection. If she was jumpy at the groomers and her behavior at home is out of sorts, it could be medical. If it is not medical, then I would suggest giving her time to be top dog on her own, Maybe a ride in the car or a walk with just you. Keep us posted.

  14. Laura…Hannah looks very much like my Rat Terrier, Milo only he is short haired and a bit smaller. He’s on my sidebar is you want a peek. Anyway. Same situation here. We brought Layla on the scene as a puppy when Milo was three. He wanted nothing to do with her and acted annoyed around her!!! As many ladies have said, they gave their first dog extra attention and that makes sence. I however kept the two as close together as possible. We played in the backyard together. Their food bowls were side by side. I made them “sit” at the same time for their treat. On other words Milo had to learn Laula was part of the pack and here to stay. And Layla knows she has a big brother. They are inseparable.

    I wish you all the best. Bailey and Hannah are beautiful!!!!

    Jane xxxx

  15. Just make sure your paying attention to her also,she’ll eventually get used to hannah. In no time they will be best buds. We had a older dog she was 10 or 11 brought home a puppy 8 week old, at first the older dog didnt want anything to do with the puppy but alittle after once the puppy got used to the house and the older dog the older dog started playing so cute with the puppy would share most of her toys lol. And it gave the older dog someone to take care of otherwise she laid around the house and wasnt to acctive any more. And when we had to put the older dog down a day after this Christmas the puppy who is 3 now knew something wasnt the same and that her buddy was no longer here. She looked for her for awhile but eventually became our best bud. They will come around.

  16. H, My daughter has 18 yrs experience as a vet tech and groomer. He also has a 7yr labradoodle. Her advice is that Hannah may have bonded with Bailey instead of her human family. She says give her time and this will even out. Bailey may feel “slighted ” during this process.

    She says Goldendoodles are extremely loyal and loving dogs. Dogs and do seem to take their haircuts personally, who knew? Have you tried taking both of them to the groomer together? Sometimes it is trial and error.

    Coggradulations for making room for a rescue. That is the sweetest thing anyone can do! God Bless!

  17. We have 2 chihuahuas and brought a stray puppy (whippett/pit bull mix) in..
    My oldest chihuahua has always been “the boss” and she assumed her role right away.
    Its been 2 years and the new girl is right at home now playing & rambuctious but the chihuahuas still don’t
    like to play with her alot (size could be an issue) but it does take ALOT of time.
    Everybody is jealous of Everybody ALL of the time.
    We had to make sure they got fed,get treats,get playtime & cuddle time in the order of seniority.
    This goes with sleeping arrangements as well.
    In our house seniority rules!!!!! Now everybody just falls in line!

  18. Take them on walks together. I just got a dog like Bailey but mine is white and black. I don’t think there is anything that is better to help a dog than walking. It teaches them you are in control and gets them tired as well. Dogs are serious about who is in charge, you need to make sure they both know you are. Chances are Bailey is seeing some behaviors in Hannah that you might not notice. Walking puts them on even ground, but make sure you lead and not them. Good luck, getting a new puppy is a lot of work!

  19. Believe me, as a dog owner for many years, I have gone through this several times. It is imperative that you give your older dog a lot of attention during this integration process. It is like bringing a new sibling into a family! They need lots of love and know that they have not been pushed to the side. However, you should also encourage them to play together with a ball or other group play to bring them together. We brought ours together by “couch time” and we would both sit on the couch with both of them taking turns petting them and sitting them next to each other. We did it every evening until they bonded as well as giving treats. I hope this will help. Good luck!

  20. I have a 10 year old lab mix named Gracie Lou Freebush. She was our ‘only child’ for about three years][[p””””””””””]/*- (sorry, the chihauhau Mr. Jingles just pranced across my keyboard!) We then fostered a pup for two weeks before he was adopted, which she loved. Then we adopted two more pups less than a year each. Then the foster pup came back to us (total of four dogs!). THEN we decided to start fostering dogs…and are now at SIX. When we bring new foster pups in I find it best to ease the transition using my Young Living Essential Oils! There are several that can be used to help with stress and anxiety in both us and our pets! If you are interested, just let me know! I’m happy to help you in any way that I can!

  21. Congratulations! It’s just like a new baby brought home. The older kids want to know there still special in your eye. I suggest doing simple things as greeting the original pet first and an extra loving touch at meal times. But a great way to convey the love is to give him/her a bath (or brushing for 20 minutes without puppy around). That time is solely focused on them. Massages with the towel afterwards is a wonderful way to show commitment. Showing that fun is shared with puppy afterwards. Love your fur baby.

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