His Plan

When I was in High School, I knew I wanted to go to college, but I didn’t know where.

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There were no internet searches to depend on.

And frankly, I couldn’t depend on my friends – all of them were a bunch of smarty pants – two of them even went to Harvard.  I was not Harvard material.

So, the first turn on my journey of destiny was that someone told us about a woman who was a college counselor.  So my Mom and I went to see her.

She asked a bunch of questions and the answers yielded a list of 10 colleges that fit my specifications.

My parents supported me enough that they took me to EVERY one of those campuses.  I realize now what a commitment that was on their part.

The ninth campus I walked on was the University of New Hampshire.

UNH campus

That was it – I knew where I wanted to go.

I worked hard on putting in an application and even applied for early admission.

I thought for sure I would get in early.  One of the benefits of early admission is that you get to pick your dorm, and I knew exactly where I would pick.  It was going to be perfect!

Except, I didn’t get in early admission.

I still remember sitting on the kitchen floor sure that the world was coming to an end.

But, not to worry too much.   I did get in regular admission and they picked my dorm.

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Alexander Hall.

Of all the dorms on campus, this one was pretty dumpy and it was the only one did not have phones in the room (devastating as an 18 year old girl – 25 girls sharing ONE phone!).

And while I lived there for two years some pretty great things happen.

I met three life long friends, also known as my Betties.

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They lift me up, make me laugh and make me want to be a better friend to them with each passing year.

And, I met my husband of 17 years.


If I do nothing else in my life well, I will always know that I chose the most amazing man to be the father of my children.

Alexander Hall was not a pretty place, but it was filled with wonderful people.

People I probably never would have met had I been accepted for early admission and chosen my own dorm.

I think about that often.

How that hard step, of not getting in early, was all part of the plan for the good stuff.

I try to think of that when times are challenging and not going as we think it should.

I read a lot of bloggers talking about letting go and following HIS plan.

I am feeling so thankful that HIS plan lead me to where I am today.

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8 thoughts on “His Plan”


  1. Your words are so true.. I too learned long again to : Let Go and Let God.. thats the phrase we used when we our great plan didnt work out and we had to turn in a totally different direction- which was the BEST thing that could have happened..

    You and your Betties are adorable and its wonderful that you cherish each other.

  2. I often think about that as well, the paths that I would have not chosen for myself but a higher power knew more than I did, and I am so glad that He did. 🙂 I truly think that I would not be as happy as I am now. 🙂

  3. Your words are very appropriate for me right now. I often think how when time passes, we look back on those disappointments and realize that so much more good came after them. I try to remind myself that I am not in charge, and recognize that God only wants the best for us!

  4. When we ask for something and don’t get it we feel let down. Maybe it is not the time. Yes is not the only answer to a prayer, it can still be no.

    Dream your dreams but feel blessed you will be led to the best place for you, and it is not always the easiest journey.

  5. Durham, NH and Nottingham ,NH abut one another. My daughter grew up in Nottingham ,NH with UNH basically in her back year. She was NOT going to go to college at UNH!!!!!! How “safe” & unadventurous! So after looking at colleges all over New England and New York she decided on UNE in Portland, Maine. She created a schedule that allowed her to be home Friday at 3:00 to Monday at 2:00 before she’d drive back to school. I was paying for a meal plan and a dorm room and she was home almost as much as she was at school!!!!!! Long story short, she transferred after her first year and after her Sophomore transferred again TO UNH!!!!!! She’s so happy there. She just had to get there when she was ready, because afterall, who wants to go to college in their back yard? Glad to know you are a UNH grad. It’s another reason why I adore you.

  6. My husband and I are being reminded of that exact thing. There really is such a thing as “peace that surpasses all understanding” and I thank God for everyday as we pray for the best.