Fall Thoughts Around the Table

I am going to join everyone else and complain about how ridiculously hot it has been even though the calendar says it is “fall”.  I am so ready to wear some cute fall outfits and instead I am scraping out repeats of summer outfits that I am more than tired of. Even more than cute outfits, I am in the mood to be “in the mood” to cook and gather around our table.  When the temperature goes cooler, I tend to linger in the kitchen longer and we tend to stay around the table long after the meal is complete. We go from the slowed schedule of summer to the start of school so abruptly and I feel like the change of weather gives us a chance to regroup and catch our breath.  And this year, more than ever, I am trying to catch my breath. There has been so much change this year. We built this sugar house I sit in right now. I no longer work from home, I have to “go to work”. Our oldest is busily preparing for college and today, she got her driver’s license. We lost our sweet Bailey Rose.  Ugh, that is still so hard to even grasp and puts a lump in my throat. This round of changes has been hard for me.  My “role” in so many areas is changing.  Parenting an almost 17 year old has been such a transition.  I feel like their was a “marked” change of my role earlier this year and it has been an adjustment.  I find myself staring at parents with young children and wanting to run up to them and warn them, to tell them to hang on to the little years with all their might.  But I know it will go on deaf ears, just as it did on me back in those days.  Never has there been a more true description of parenting than “the days are long but the years are short”.  Don’t get me wrong, parenting my teenagers is amazing, as are they.  It is just letting go of the role I had and getting used to a new one. I share this not for sympathy, but because I guess there might be a lot of you going through something similar.  You might be facing big changes and even if they are good, change can be hard. I have learned from Lara Casey, it is okay to grow slow.   I love Lara’s review of how she first started her company and all the growing pains she went through.  There is so much I can relate to. I am beginning to accept that even if what is going on around me is not changing slowly, that doesn’t mean I can’t process through it all at my own pace.  And you can do the same too. So although it is still too hot to cook a big meal tonight, over the next few weeks I will start transitioning to cooking more and hoping that everyone stays around the table just a little bit longer.   SaveSave SaveSave SaveSave SaveSave SaveSave SaveSave SaveSave]]>

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  1. Laura, you are a beautiful writer, and your words always have a profound touch on me. Raising two of my own, we’re entering the teenage years, and not only is their role changing, but certainly mine as well. Thank you for always writing from your heart. I identify with your words.

  2. Laura,
    My Grandmother would say enjoy your children’s early years, because “once they start school they start leaving home”.
    She was the mother of 10 and grandmother of 28 and one of my most special people.

  3. So wonderful to see you here. Transition is hard and sometimes filled with such strong emotions. We have had a summer of change. Then Monday we realized there was a grandchild having her first birthday and we both looked at each other and said, “where has the year gone!”. I’m glad faIl ishere and savor each moment. Wishing you many cozy meals this fall at the table filled with family and joy.

  4. first…i’m so sorry about your little dog. I remember when you were naming him Baily Rose. so heartbreaking, had to go hug my own little dog just cause. you’ve been involved in so much change. takes a lot of time and energy. we made a major lifestyle change this summer leaving our home and area where we grew up and family and friends to a smaller, less populated town a couple of hours away. everything new and unfamiliar. exciting but extremely challenging as my mother’s health declined dramatically and we must be back and forth all the time…exhausting learning so much so fast, right? great to hear from you.

  5. I really love your centerpiece; it’s gorgeous and love the colors! I have 3 children (13, 8 & 3) and I know I should cherish this time with them while they are young, but it’s so hard some days! My 3-year-old was a surprise baby after my husband had a vasectomy and as shocked as we were, it really has been a blessing in disguise as I get to enjoy the early years even longer! 🙂

  6. Hi there! Excuse me for being blunt, change sucks! Although I work from home and run my own business I am facing similar changes as you. My youngest will turn 17 in December and wants to graduate this year so she can “start her life” as she puts it. My middle child turns 19 this year and has already graduated in June and moved out. My oldest turns 23 this year and has been out of the house for a few years. I am super sad and really doing my best to accept and move on. I too am used to my role but I am learning we are doing a good job and our jobs are to be there and raise our children. If we can get them to graduate and be independent adults we have succeeded. My children are still around but living their dreams, and I can be happy for them and encourage them. This makes them happy. Laura, you my friend are not alone.

  7. hi laura. i don’t know you but i should. so much of what your saying is exactly how i’m feeling. mine are 15 & 13 and i think i tear up at least one per day. yup, when mine were little a wise mom told me long days, fast years and i agreed whole heartedly but i understood the long days part. now the fast years is a reality staring me in the face all the time. my oldest is going to homecoming this weekend & i love it but i miss my littles. i could go on & on… but what brought me here is your fabulous centerpiece. i agree. we need cooler temps and slower schedules but i don’t dare complain with all the craziness going on, fires, hurricanes, shootings. god bless all of us. nice meeting you virtually. xo- maryjo